Yes it’s like heterosexuals saying they are a part of LGBT when they are just supporting same-sex marriage. It’s just another indicator of self-entitled privilege, and oppressive groups wanting a reward for showing the slightest bit of empathy for the group they oppress.
A guy in my Women’s Studies teaching collective got pissed off when he read in an article that men cannot be feminists, only feminist allies, and I was looking at him like “why do you think your opinion matters on this subject when this movement isn’t fucking about you and YOU’RE the one in a position of power you brat”
But wait isn’t feminism used to identify with the belief that women deserve to be treated the same as men, and people are equal regardless of gender?
To me it’s different from LGBT and allies because all feminists support, but not all feminists claim to be women, which is what it’d be if allies said they were LGBT…
It’s never in the oppressed group’s best interest to have their oppressors dictating the direction of their liberation, which is why LGBT/women don’t want straight people/men including themselves in our spaces. We’re frequently spoken over and have our experiences invalidated, all by self proclaimed male “feminists”, in addition to having our own words demonized until they’re spoken from a man. That’s far from helpful. Men calling themselves allies, and recognizing that’s all they can be, isn’t limiting in the slightest. You can quickly tell exactly why men can’t be feminists once you tell them they’re not allowed to take on the label. It’s an amazing way of exposing their entitlement tbh.
Men don’t need the label to be helpful, and if that’s truly their goal, to help, they’ll see that. They don’t need to inject themselves into feminist spaces, they need to inject feminism into spaces they’ve already obtained.